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TMI? 11 Ways to Make Sure Your Writing Isn’t Too Personal

“What if the very pain you’re afraid to share is exactly the thing that will change someone’s life?” Laura Di Franco

Yeah, I said that in a recent workshop. This blog is going to be about moving through your fear and sharing that thing you’re called to share. I’m going to tell you there’s no TMI. And here’s eleven ways to move through the fear that your blog is sharing too much, too vulnerable, or too personal for your readers.

“That’s what happens when you share about your divorce on Facebook,” a friend recently scolded me. I laughed at him and said, “Yeah, I guess so. Oh well.” This was immediately after I confided in him that an old (very old) boyfriend had just “found” me there.

Was I surprised I was found out? No. Curious? Totally.

The online world is big and brutal. If you want to play big these days in terms of your message you’re going to have to open your heart, practice fierce boundaries, and allow the energy to bounce off of your armor.

Armor that you then must take down before you write your next blog.

There are a small percentage of us who can do this; be vulnerable enough to share our authentic healing stories with the world and then carry on like it’s nothing.

Only it’s not nothing. It’s totally a big something. We’re the ones called right now to share. We’re the ones who will redefine TMI. We are warriors.

Our ability to be real, raw, and a little too much; it’s how we heal ourselves and the world. TMI? I can’t think of any.

If it happened to you, chances are it’s happened to someone else. If you’ve thought of it, believed it, experienced it and/or survived it, chances are someone needs to hear your story so they can move through their own wound without feeling so alone.

TMI is about the receiver being unable to handle/process/hold a loving, healing, non-judgmental space for the sharer. It’s also about old, outdated, unhelpful rules you were taught that you’re following now, even though they don’t serve you anymore.

I’m out to wake people up to this; awareness, authenticity and courage is what we all need right now. If something is TMI for you, then push it aside for now. Explore how you feel about it first, before you fire off your judgment.

“You better not publish that!” A family member fired that one off to me after reading parts of a book I’d written a few years ago talking about my childhood wounds.

“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If they wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.” Anne Lamott

I’ve used this quote so many times recently — to many a head nod, I might add — that I’ve memorized it. But here’s where I get caught up now. Just maybe, at the time of their “bad behavior,” they were just a stupid, unconscious kid. So what’s a healer to do when compassion has taken over and she’s learned how to forgive? Do I still share?

Yes.

Because it’s what’s going to heal us and the world.

And here are 11 ways to help you move through the fear:

  1. Stop thinking and start feeling.

6. Write with the intention of healing

7. Write with the energy of gratitude and love

8. Write with the goal of helping

9. Show us, don’t tell us

10. Write without the expectation of publishing first

11. Get feedback (if you must)

Here’s a brief breakdown of each and how it will help. Mostly, this’s about your awareness, your intuition and your mission in the world as a healer right now. This’s about learning a way to write and share your stories that feels good, authentic and brave, but that will also move people. Sharing a “sort of” personal story that others can tell you’re holding back on? I’m not sure it’s going to get you the response you really want.

Time to be brave.

  1. When you realize you’re over-analyzing, over-thinking and adding baggage to your already heavy baggage, you need to stop. Clear your mind, drop into your body and start feeling. Try connecting with the breath, your body and your intuition, which will give different messages than your mind. Practice reconnecting to that place often.

We’re all human. There’s no TMI. If you’re a professional following confidentiality rules with your clients, I’m encouraging you to share stories you feel good about, not stories that compromise what you do as a professional. There’s a way to do this.

The most important thing about sharing our stories is the idea that everyone is on the same playing field as a human being in this world, all living our lives, exploring what it means to be alive and in connection with others, and seeking understanding about what brings us health and happiness. We’re all one. We’re all equal.

When you think about life, and your role in it, if you’re inspired to share, there’s a reason. Follow that ache. Be brave and let’s heal together. Let’s start a movement. How about instead of TMI we use MIP (More information please!)?

Join me in the comments; what’s the thing keeping you from sharing your personal story right now?

Laura Di Franco, MPT is the owner of Brave Healer Productions and a powerhouse who writes to Feng Shui her soul. She’s the author of Brave Healing, a Guide for Your Journey, her sixth book to help inspire your fiercely alive whole self. Join her and write words that build your business and heal the world. The Write Habit online writing club is now open at www.BraveHealer.com

Your words will change the world when you’re brave enough to share them! www.BraveHealer.com