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Open for Comments; How to Not Stress Over What Others Think
I keep my website blog open for comments because I love getting nice, joyful messages telling me how awesome you think me and my writing are and how it inspires you. And also because differing ideas and suggestions about my blog topic can enrich it for the next reader.
Once in a while a troll shows up.
And that’s why I approve all comments before they’re published. Except here on Medium where we can’t do that.
It’s also why some folks don’t open their blogs to comments at all. I’m sure they feel much safer knowing they can freely express without fear of negative feedback or criticism. I dabbled with that idea once upon a time. The “Approval First” route took care of that though, even though it’s a little more work.
I think being open to all comments is a stage of evolution where you just don’t give a fuck what others think, to the point of not taking any judgements personally and/or not feeling triggered when it happens.
Wouldn’t that be nice?
I know some of you are there already and are sitting pretty in that feeling of no-fucks-left-to-give.
What about those of us who still get triggered when we receive judgments that are negative, or even mean, feeling the pang of shame rise from our gut…
