Aligning with what feels good is scary at first and it’s the single most important thing you need to do if you’re craving more joy in any area of your life or if you’re interested in living your life’s purpose.
What’s “aligning” mean? It’s living your moments following the pull of your soul to thoughts, beliefs, actions, relationships, jobs and/or situations that light you up, turn you on or otherwise make you smile and say to yourself, “Mmm, life is good.”
Alignment has a soft purpose-filled core and is dipped in dark chocolate. When you’re taking a bite of it you close your eyes it tastes so good and let it linger on your tongue a little. Alignment smells like the first day of an ocean-side vacation when you open up that glass door to the sea breeze. It feels like running your hands over velvet and then laying that blanket down over the sand and sinking your naked body into it.
Okay, I’m getting carried away — but I want to give you the idea about this that pulls you out of your over-analyzing mind and gets you into your senses; because that’s where alignment lives.
What feels good to you?
Do you even allow yourself to think about this?
How about journal about it?
Do you practice living it? At all?
How much time in your day, week or month is spent pondering this, writing it down and then planning on moving toward it? How about taking actual action? It’s time to tip the scale in the other direction!
If you’re like me you spent a lot of hours doing what you should do, and desperate-feeling-moments wishing it was different or resenting it all together.
I followed the rules taught to me by a generation that thought success looked like certain things; a great job, a great man, two kids, a dog, a house and investments.
And while all these things brought good stuff, they didn’t ultimately create the feeling of joy I was after. At the time, I didn’t even really know what I wanted. I just thought it had to do with a lot of money, being married, and being away from the family I grew up around.
Turns out none of those things pulled my soul toward joy. I had to spend time thinking about what did. I had to write two books worth before it started showing up, peeking from behind my heart and then slowly showing itself to me; sometimes only to quickly run and hide again.
The braver I got about aligning with feel-good things, the more she showed her face, and the more unapologetic she became about speaking up about what felt good (or bad) to her.
You might be following the supposed to rules without really thinking about possibilities. You might be sitting in that cage, letting the walls get smaller, feeling the pain but feeling paralyzed about doing anything about it.
But it hurts now, doesn’t it? That constant, stifling comfort zone that grabs ahold of your throat every time you try to want something different. “You’re being greedy!” It says. “Just be happy with what you have,” it reminds you.
Only you realize what you have isn’t feeling good and no matter what you do, the ache in your gut and the shrink-wrap around your heart doesn’t let up.
That’s because your soul knows. And it’s tired of you ignoring it. And it sends you a message in the form of a little chest tightness.
So…what are you going to do about it?
“Don’t wait for your house to burn down before you smell the smoke.” Torrie Pattillo
If you’ve followed the rules — the supposed to this, and the should that — and are starting to feel like that lifestyle is a cage, there’s one important thing you haven’t been doing and that’s listening to your own soul.
The problem with relying on everyone else’s rules about how to live your life is those rules may not align with what feels right and good to you. Time to make your own rules, follow the joy, and begin to see just how great life can feel when you learn the language of your soul.
But maybe you’ve been told life is supposed to be hard. And you believed it. Maybe you think you have to work harder to get where you want to go; that suffering is normal and should be expected. And that things can’t feel too good.
Maybe when things do feel good, you feel guilty, greedy, or some other feeling that self-sabotages you right back into your misery.
If kids aren’t encouraged to follow their feelings and intuition about things, they learn that everyone else’s are how to navigate life. If you’ve learned to follow everyone else’s rules, feelings, opinions and ways you probably have no idea what feels good to your own soul. You might be wondering why things feel so miserable, even if you have everything you’re supposed to want.
It’s time for a language lesson.
Intuition 101 starts with knowing what feels good (and bad) to you. Intermediate level intuition is when you’re actually trusting those messages. And advanced intuition is when you follow them to what feels good and live there. Learning this language is a matter of being in touch with what feels good, right, nourishing, positive and soul-driven to you. Those things feel light and free and like a “Hell Yes!” inside of you.
It’s going to feel like this:
Only it’s possible that you never gave yourself permission to feel good. And that you’ve been living in the should’s too long.
Just like any other language, you lose it if you don’t use it.
To align with good vibes you have to know what feels good, know you’re worth feeling that, and then pursue it even when it feels impossible, painful or terrifying. In other words, when it comes to making sacrifices to feel those good things, you may just feel paralyzed into your comfort zone again.
Anyone getting used to “meh?” Anyone realizing that slightly resentful is how you live day to day? Anyone feel the ache and the knowing that there’s more to life than that?
And it’s up to you to go get it.
Start by knowing what you want. Start to think about what feels good. Practice feeling these things in your body. Learn it’s language. Continue by saying yes or no to things that feel good or bad. Up-level everything by becoming unapologetic about not accepting things that feel like shit into your life. Up-level again with bonus points if you give yourself permission to feel a rampage of joy and go singing and dancing toward it every single day like nobody’s watching.
And believe me, they’re watching.
And they want what you got.
It’s up to you.
Go for the joy.
Laura Di Franco, MPT is an intuitive writing strategist, holistic physical therapist and third degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do with over two decades of experience in healing. Praised as “our favorite class” by The Writer’s Center, her brave, intuitive writing and healing workshops are the reason she was born. She helps writers get their badass, authentic voice published in order to heal the world with their words. Her new book, Brave Healing; a Guide for Your Journey was just released by Possibilities Publishing Company! Find Laura at www.BraveHealer.com and her Brave Healer Facebook Page.