How Indecision Will Turn You Into a Zombie and What to do About it in 3 Steps
“It doesn’t matter which side of the fence you get off on sometimes. What matters most is getting off. You cannot make progress without making decisions.” Jim Rohn
I call indecision the killer of dreams because it’s rooted in fear; the kind born from old, paralyzing beliefs like, I’m not good enough. Indecision’s exacerbated by those incessant inner critic voices keeping you small, afraid, powerless and unworthy. You’ll have to understand indecision is the exact thing turning you into a zombie. Here’s what to do about that.
“If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not making decisions.”
Catherine’s got it; we have to realize our mistakes and failures are the stepping stones to success and our wildest dreams, and make more of them. Indecision means we’re paralyzed in fear, in the “what ifs,” trying to analyze something we can’t.
If we’ve been taught to be perfect, that we can’t make mistakes or fail because “that’s a shame” or we’re bad somehow, we’ll avoid them at all costs. Decisions that really matter will become torture, instead of a brave move for our next level life.
“It’s easier to stay confused.”
Robin’s my acupuncturist. We were discussing my marriage at the time she said this to me. She explained that to follow my heart and make a clear decision was harder. I knew this. I’d waited, knowing what was true for me, for years — afraid to make a decision about ending my marriage.
Being confused about it, talking about it with multiple people until even I was sick of hearing about it, and continually not honoring the way I felt inside and the clear, loud call of my soul was painful. I kept doing that because it seemed easier than the alternative. My indecision was creating pain in my body.
When I gave myself permission to feel, and connect the pain with what I already knew, I had the clarity. I just needed to do something about it. It would take a while for me to be brave enough to take the action my intuition had already asked for for years.
Awareness is the first step.
Awareness is what you need first on the path to making decisions that move you in the direction of your dreams. Notice what your habitual pattern is when something comes up that matters. Do you run and hide? Or do you pull out your sword and step into the arena?
“Crazy-busy is a great armor, it’s a great way for numbing. What a lot of us do is we stay so busy, and so out in front of our life, the truth of how we’re feeling and what we really need can’t catch up with us.” Brene Brown
Brene’s talking about feeling and awareness. If you can’t feel, you’re not going to make decisions based on what feels good to you, because you’ll be busy doing everything for everyone else. Slow down and feel. Understand what makes you feel good. And start making decisions based on that.
Knowing what you want is the next step.
If you don’t you’ll never be making decisions for yourself. You’ll never be living life on your own terms. It will always feel like you’re a character in someone else’s story.
“The best you’ll ever do is to understand yourself, know what you want, and not let the cattle stand in your way.” Janet Fitch
When you know what you want your decisions can be aligned with that. If you’re shuffling around zombie-like, following the crowd to the next thing that smells good, your decisions won’t align with your true desires, wants, needs and dreams. Your life will feel small and you’ll start feeling resentful and regretful. Your body will start feeling stiff and painful. Your soul will start to suffocate.
Have you made any time to sit and think about, journal about or talk about what it is you’d really like for your life? Maybe the first decision to make is to give yourself the time to figure this out.
Making a decision and going through with it is the next step.
Let’s say you’ve practiced awareness, you’re feeling into your life, you’ve come to some conclusions about what you want and how you want to feel, and you’re ready to make some decisions that align with your truth. Now what? Now you act. And if you get stuck in fear, just know action is the key to everything. You must figure out how to take the action, even while you’re afraid.
Eckhart Tolle give us the how-to on this topic — how we use the fear:
“Is fear preventing you from taking action? Acknowledge the fear, watch it, take your attention into it, be fully present with it. Doing so cuts the link between the fear and your thinking. Don’t let the fear rise up into your mind. Use the power of the Now. Fear cannot prevail against it.”
Maybe you think you’re not good enough or smart enough to achieve your big dream. Maybe you’re afraid of what everyone else will think or say about you. Maybe fear of rejection or failure is so big inside you, you’d rather stay in your comfort zone and settle for a less that kickass life, because it’s just easier. Maybe you don’t want to make the wrong decision so you don’t make any.
Thing is, no decision is wrong. Every decision will bring you closer to what you want, even if it doesn’t feel like it in the moment. Standing still inside your fear? That’s what will keep you stuck not moving toward your dreams.
How about we use fear as a compass. Relax and have a little more fun with it. Make friends with the feeling of fear instead of reacting to it like we’re staring at a tiger in the jungle. When you think about it this kind of fear is boring. These voices in our heads keeping us from making decisions that’ll feel good, move us ahead with our projects, goals and dreams — they’re boring.
“Your fear is boring.” Elizabeth Gilbert
Get over your own bullshit now. LG is right, this kind of fear is boring. Either you step up and start making better decisions and take the action you know you need to take or you stay a zombie and let your indecision kill your dreams and your life. Not saying it’s easy. But you know you’re tired of the zombie life. You know you’re ready for more. You know you’re worthy of it. And you know it’s time.
Start with this decision: Your choice; live like a zombie or live fiercely alive with a mission to change the world. Go live. Choose you. Choose the things that feel the best, no matter what anyone else thinks or says. Feels better right?
When you make decisions, clear or not, you get the opportunity for more clarity. This’s the secret people don’t realize — it’s through making a decision and acting on it that the clarity you lack will come. You must choose a direction. It doesn’t matter if it’s the wrong one.
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Laura Di Franco, MPT is a holistic physical therapist, published author, poet, blogger and black belt with over two decades of experience in healing. Her transformational programs combine the empowering tools of body awareness and therapeutic writing to help you learn the language of your intuition and gain the clarity you crave for your life and business. Laura’s enthusiasm is contagious and the spark that’ll inspire you to make the change you’ve been afraid to make. She’s the sherpa you’ve been looking for! Want a workshop that’ll give you practical powerful tools you can use to heal yourself today? Find them at www.BraveHealer.com And get more free inspiration on my Facebook page HERE.