5 Ways to Use Your Personal Journal to Write a Viral Blog
“I write to Feng Shui my soul.” Laura Di Franco
We think our journals are full of secrets that’d get us kicked out of the PTA, or unfriended on Facebook, but the reality is the real life, raw, sometimes painful but always authentic nuggets of life that sit on the pages of your journal will be the things people want and need to hear the most. They’ll be the stories that heal the world.
I self-published my first memoir based on six years of journals. Finally writing my story of healing and putting it out there for the world? More than priceless — it was a catapult for my life, my writing and my worth.
Transparency and courage aren’t for everyone and TMI is relative to who you’re talking to. But when I look into the world and feel all the joy and all the sorrow…when I give myself permission to really understand myself and others, and feel the oneness, one of the things I know for sure heals me the fastest and most furiously is a vulnerable story that resonates with my heart and soul.
In the moments I read those kinds of words and think, me too, a chunk of worth snaps back into the puzzle and I become more brave. When I meld with an author’s energy, feel her pain and am suddenly not alone in the deep, dark corners of my mind — that’s healing.
Even if I end up reading and think, fuck, I could never write about that, part of me’s hopeful and inspired. In the instant someone divulges their big, bad secret for everyone to read part of me’s like, thank God I’m not the only one, and I start to think about my stories and sharing those gifts.
It’s our most personal stories, thoughts, beliefs, ideas and inspirations that’ll create hope in a reader who’s in despair, or motivation for someone feeling powerless. It will make them feel seen. It’s the real-life events, and how we’ve triumphed during tragedy or managed to preserve our self-worth in the face of humiliation that’ll help someone else do the same — as long as we’re brave enough to be out loud.
The fear of being out loud with our secrets is real though. The voices are thick with doubt, shame and unworthiness:
“Nobody’s going to care about what you have to say.”
“You’re not good or smart enough to write anything worth reading.”
“You’re stories are boring.”
“Everyone’s going to know what a bad person you are.”
“Everyone’s going to think you’re an idiot.”
Well, I say your fear is boring. And when you realize telling one of the stories formerly only kept in the tight grip of your journal’s the way to your reader’s heart and the catalyst for healing…I hope you’ll think about being brave.
Here are a few ways to use the stories from your journal to write a blog everyone wants to read.
- Authenticity rocks. People vibe with real stories and see themselves in them. When people feel the emotions and really resonate there’s a powerful energy to that. They want to feel included, accepted and appreciated. Being authentic and writing about one of your personal experiences will help others feel that way.
- People don’t want to be told what to do. If you’re speaking from experience but never share any of your own it’s hard to get to know you and harder to want to listen. Instead of telling others, show them how you did it. Stories about how you overcame your worst pain are more inspirational then telling someone how to overcome pain.
- Journaling isn’t censored and we can feel that. When you journal you’re hair is usually down; you don’t censor yourself as much and your writing comes from a place that’s as close to your truth as you can get. And that’s why it’s so powerful. That connected place is how your writing comes alive. It’s this fiercely alive writing that engages and helps your reader.
- Your stories are what make you unique. Tired of reading the hundredth article about how to be a good life coach? Me too. Instead, why don’t you tell me the story of how you healed yourself from child abuse and were inspired to coach others along the path, and help me feel like I can do it too.
- The fastest way to kill shame is to call it out. Psychologists know that as soon as your secret is out the relief is real. I’m not telling you to compromise yourself here, but sharing your personal stories of pain, abuse, failure, illness, bad relationships, and loss is exactly how the feeling starts to shift.
The most common question I get about all this brave writing is the one about effecting others close to us (in bad ways) by telling our stories. We don’t want to hurt people. We also don’t people to hate us.
“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” Anne Lamott
Yes, Anne, thanks for that. I think I’ll tell my stories now. To Feng Shui my soul by telling my stories clears a space inside for the joy. It paves way for creativity and inspiration to flow. It helps attract better, healthier, more aligned people and circumstances into my life. And if it means people don’t agree, or worse, get angry or offended, well, those aren’t my people.
Tell your stories. Heal the world.
What’s the thing you’re most afraid to write? Stay tuned for the next blog; How to Write the Thing You’re Afraid to Write. In the meantime, let me know one of the ways you’ve been brave in your writing and how it effected you.
Laura Di Franco, MPT is a holistic healer and physical therapist, published author, poet, blogger and black belt with over two decades of experience in healing. Her transformational programs combine the empowering tools of body awareness and therapeutic writing to help you learn the language of your intuition and gain the clarity you crave for your life and business. Laura’s enthusiasm is contagious and the spark that’ll inspire you to make the change you’ve been afraid to make. She’s the sherpa you’ve been looking for! Ready for a workshop that’ll give you powerful, practical tools you can use today? Find them at www.BraveHealer.com And more free inspiration on her Facebook page HERE.