There are ways to think, believe and act that create an amazing life where you wake up feeing enthusiastic, purposeful and soul-driven, no matter what you’re faced with, no matter what happens, who says what, or how your luck seems to be. Want to feel better, even a little blissed-out every day? Try these three things.
Don’t complain, vent or gossip.
Look at everything as an opportunity, especially the bad things.
Say the thing you need to say — today.
I’m always looking for ways to feel good; to go to bed at the end of the day saying to myself, that was a great day and I can’t wait to see what happens next! Using this kind of awareness is the key to a life that turns you on; one where you even catch yourself saying, it’d be okay if I died tomorrow, because you feel that fulfilled.
During many years of my life, as I checked off my to-do list: Get your degree. Get a great job. Advance as fast as possible. Find a husband. Buy a nice house. Have two kids — I found myself unhappy. How could I feel unhappy inside of a life where I had everything? I think it was simple. Not enough gratitude and not really knowing who I truly was or what I really wanted.
The stuff on the list was created by watching my parents, listening to the media, learning from my teachers and coaches and comparing myself to friends; all the while believing what I heard and saw rather than connecting with my own intuition and soul for the answers.
I followed the rules, tried to be perfect, did what I was told I should be doing and then spent a lot of time complaining about it to friends when I was resentful, angry or disappointed. Every accomplishment felt great, for a little while. And then I’d set the next goal hoping it would make me feel more successful.
Achievement became my drug of choice, numbing the pain of unworthiness.
What I really needed to do was realize my worth and feel successful despite my reality; feel good and grateful and turned on despite the circumstances. I needed more gratitude and less complaining. I needed more detachment and less fear. I needed to discover who I was, what I liked about her and what I stood for and then start being her; not the girl who was following everyone else’s life rules.
Slowly but surely I figured out how to rock my own life, live on my own terms, be out loud about who I am and conquer the fear keeping me in the prison of unworthiness. These three things, when I remember to do them every day, keep me feeling brave and turned on about my life and in a constant enthusiastic anticipation of what’s next.
1. Limit complaining, venting and gossiping. It’s low vibe. Do less of it. If you stay in the energy of complaining you’ll bring on more to complain about. This is simple, but not easy. The habit is real; you’ll have some work to do. How does one break the habit? Practice awareness. It’s the only way to rocking your life; to make awareness your new friend and lifelong discipline.
2. Realize everything that happens is an opportunity. Even the bad stuff. Don’t add meaning to life’s events. Recognize the possibility that even the bad stuff can lead to good things. If you’re aware, you can respond instead of react to things. You’ll be able to take everything less personally. You’ll be able to make your next move based on how you feel and how your intuition guides you. Don’t get pulled into reactions that keep you triggered and paralyzed.
3. Say the thing you need to say. Today. And don’t apologize for your idea/opinion or perspective. This requires you knowing yourself, knowing what you want, how you want to feel and what you stand for. This is big work. If you’ve been following everyone else’s rules for a while it might take some time to figure out who you are. That’s okay, it’s worth the time, energy and effort and it might just change your life. Being out loud in the world about who you are and the message you want to share is a worthiness thing. You were born, so you’re worthy. Speak up. Figure out what it is you need to say and don’t waste another day keeping that stuffed inside. Your freedom will come as the words move from your heart to your tongue.
Bottom line — you’ll want to take on the powerful practice of awareness to be rocking your life every single day. Feeling is healing. And feeling everything you feel is the language of your soul, intuition, inner wisdom and healer. When they say all the answers are within, this’s what they mean. Learn that language.
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Laura Di Franco, MPT is a holistic physical therapist, published author, poet, blogger and black belt with over two decades of experience in healing. Her transformational programs combine the empowering tools of body awareness and therapeutic writing to help you learn the language of your intuition and gain the clarity you crave for your life and business. Laura’s enthusiasm is contagious and the spark that’ll inspire you to make the change you’ve been afraid to make. She’s the sherpa you’ve been looking for! Want a workshop that’ll give you practical powerful tools you can use to heal yourself today? Find them at www.BraveHealer.com And more free inspiration on my Facebook page HERE.