What if “authentic,” just like all the other labels we try to put on ourselves and others, is just another way we limit awareness and box ourselves in when it comes to expressing ourselves and our message in the world?
I love this question. And I use it for lots of labels when I start to see them everywhere. They get overused and a bit tight, small and suffocating.
Everyone preaches authenticity as a way to be in life and business. But here’s why I think we should get around the labels and just stick to being ourselves, no matter what we think we should be.
Merriam Webster states “authentic” when pertaining to a person as; “true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character * is sincere and authentic with no pretensions.”
Shit, I had to look up “pretensions” too. “a claim or right to attention or honor because of merit.”
Okay, so I’m being myself without having to convince you I’m awesome.
That feels so good, doesn’t it? Actually, it feels so good I’m going to type it again a little bolder.
Be yourself without having to convince anyone you’re awesome.
I run with a group of powerful healers where #authentichealing is the norm. We all know what it means and we live inside of the practice of it which is where the power is. The practice is to feel and then think, believe, speak and act in response to what we feel. We don’t really have to be anything, but ourselves. We use awareness or feeling to guide us and we practice honoring what we feel as a guide in our life.
Who we are being and what we are feeling may change depending on the circumstances.
My friend Deletta calls this the “Internal GPS.” You guys should listen to her talk about it HERE. I’ve heard it called intuition, inner healer, and inner wisdom.
When you’re following what you feel, you can never be inauthentic. Get it?
Here’s the catch. Everyone feels something different, based on what Merriam said; their personality, spirit, character…and I’ll add upbringing, conditioning, desires, tastes. How can we define authenticity for an individual? Kinda like that whole perfect issue — who gets to decide what’s perfect?
So what do you feel? Can you speak and interact from that place without feeling right or wrong about it, or feeling judgmental about someone else’s words or actions? Can we please all just get a bit more curious about each other’s “authentic?”
Here are 10 ways to be yourself without worrying about any labels:
1. Start feeling what you feel. Practice getting still and noticing.
2. Start writing about what you feel. Use journaling as a tool for awareness.
3. Check your fear at the door and express what you feel so that others can feel the authenticity without you having to try to be that.
4. Be curious about what others feel. Ask! There’s always more to learn about others.
5. Listen to listen, not to speak.
6. Speak up when you need to! Notice when you’re holding your tongue in the name of being a “good girl.”
7. When you’re hurt or confused, just say that, without blaming.
8. Don’t apologize for yourself.
9. Remember it’s okay that not everyone vibes with you. But notice how it feels when they don’t.
10. Go for what feels good to you, no matter what feels good to everyone else.
How else do you be you without having to try? Join me in the comments and let’s build a bigger list to help each other understand all the unique ways we can be ourselves in the world.
Laura Di Franco, MPT is the owner of Brave Healer Productions and a powerhouse who writes to Feng Shui her soul. She’s the author of Brave Healing, a Guide for Your Journey, her sixth book to help inspire your fiercely alive whole self. Join her and write words that build your business and heal the world. Schedule a call at www.BraveHealer.com